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The Four Agreements – Miguel Ruiz

  • “There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.”
  • “If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn’t walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You will find that you don’t need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.”
  • “Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.”
  • “If others tell us something, we make assumptions, and if they don’t tell us something, we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate. Even if we hear something and we don’t understand we make assumptions about what it means and then believe the assumptions. We make all sorts of assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions.”
  • “I will no longer allow anyone to manipulate my mind and control my life in the name of love.”
  • The best way to say, “Thank you, God,” is by letting go of the past and living in the present moment, right here and now. Whatever life takes away from you, let it go. When you surrender and let go of the past, you allow yourself to be fully alive in the moment. Letting go of the past means you can enjoy the dream that is happening right now.”
  • “Every human is an artist. The dream of your life is to make beautiful art.”
  • “If you live in a past dream, you don’t enjoy what is happening right now because you will always wish it to be different than it is. There is no time to miss anyone or anything because you are alive. Not enjoying what is happening right now is living in the past and being only half alive. This leads to self pity, suffering and tears.”
  • “But it is not what I am saying that is hurting you; it is that you have wounds that I touch by what I have said. You are hurting yourself. There is no way I can take this personally.”
  • “Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.”
  • “You can have many great ideas in your head, but what makes the difference is the action. Without action upon an idea, there will be no manifestation, no results, and no reward”
  • “Wherever you go you will find people lying to you, and as your awareness grows, you will notice that you also lie to yourself. Do not expect people to tell you the truth because they also lie to themselves. You have to trust yourself and choose to believe or not to believe what someone says to you.”
  • “Be impeccable with your word. Don’t take anything personally. Don’t make assumptions. Always do your best.”
  • “Also, go inside and listen to your body, because your body will never lie to you. Your mind will play tricks, but the way you feel in your heart, in your guts, is the truth.”
  • “It is when we lose control that we repress the emotions, not when we are in control.”
  • “True justice is paying only once for each mistake. True injustice is paying more than once for each mistake.”
  • “What you will see is love coming out of the trees, love coming out of the sky, love coming out of the light. You will perceive love from everything around you. This is the state of bliss.”
  • “The big difference between a warrior and a victim is that the victim represses and the warrior refrains.”
  • “Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use your power of your word in the direction of truth and love.”
  • “Whenever we hear an opinion and believe it, we make an agreement, and it becomes part of our belief system.”
  • “Humans hardly know what they want, how they want it, or when they want it.”
  • “Maybe we cannot escape from the destiny of the human, but we have a choice: to suffer our destiny or to enjoy our destiny.”
  • “You express your own divinity by being alive and by loving yourself and others.”
  • “In any kind of relationship, we can make the assumption that others know what we think, and we don’t have to say what we want. They are going to do what we want because they know us so well. If they don’t do what we want, what we assume they should do, we feel hurt and think, “How could you do that? You should know.” Again, we make the assumption that the other person knows what we want. A whole drama is created because we make this assumption and then put more assumptions on top of it.”
  • “We judge others according to our image of perfection as well, and naturally they fall short of our expectations.”
  • “We are so well trained that we are our own domesticator. We are an auto domesticated animal. We can now domesticate ourselves according to the same belief system we were given, and using the same system of punishment and reward. We punish ourselves when we don’t follow the rules according to our belief system; we reward ourselves when we are the “good boy” or “good girl” .”
  • “The Four Agreements :
    • 1. Be impeccable with your
    • 2. Don’t take anything personally.                               
    • 3. Don’t make assumptions.
    • 4. Always do your best. ”