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Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking – Malcolm Gladwell

  • “The key to good decision making is not knowledge. It is understanding. We are swimming in the former. We are desperately lacking in the latter.”
  • “There can be as much value in the blink of an eye as in months of rational analysis.”
  • “When we talk about analytic versus intuitive decision making, neither is good or bad. What is bad is if you use either of them in an inappropriate circumstance.”
  • “We have, as human beings, a storytelling problem. We’re a bit too quick to come up with explanations for things we don’t really have an explanation for.”
  • “Insight is not a lightbulb that goes off inside our heads. It is a flickering candle that can easily be snuffed out.”
  • “In the act of tearing something apart, you lose its meaning.”
  • “We live in a world saturated with information. We have virtually unlimited amounts of data at our fingertips at all times, and we’re well versed in the arguments about the dangers of not knowing enough and not doing our homework. But what I have sensed is an enormous frustration with the unexpected costs of knowing too much, of being inundated with information. We have come to confuse information with understanding.”
  • “Our world requires that decisions be sourced and footnoted, and if we say how we feel, we must also be prepared to elaborate on why we feel that way…We need to respect the fact that it is possible to know without knowing why we know and accept that – sometimes – we’re better off that way.”
  • “We live in a world that assumes that the quality of a decision is directly related to the time and effort that went into making it…We believe that we are always better off gathering as much information as possible and depending as much time as possible in deliberation. We really only trust conscious decision making. But there are moments, particularly in times of stress, when haste does not make waste, when our snap judgments and first impressions can offer a much better means of making sense of the world. The first task of Blink is to convince you of a simple fact: decisions made very quickly can be every bit as good as decisions made cautiously and deliberately.”
  • “When we become expert in something, our tastes grow more esoteric and complex.”
  • “Anyone who has ever scanned the bookshelves of a new girlfriend or boyfriend- or peeked inside his or her medicine cabinet- understands this implicitly; you can learn as much – or more – from one glance at a private space as you can from hours of exposure to a public face.”
  • “[Research] suggests that what we think of as free will is largely an illusion: much of the time, we are simply operating on automatic pilot, and the way we think and act – and how well we think and act on the spur of the moment – are a lot more susceptible to outside influences than we realize.”
  • “We learn by example and by direct experience because there are real limits to the adequacy of verbal instruction.”
  • “Arousal leaves us mind-blind.”
  • “Being able to act intelligently and instinctively in the moment is possible only after a long and rigorous of education and experience”
  • “Often a sign of expertise is noticing what doesn’t happen.”
  • “The answer is that we are not helpless in the face of our first impressions. They may bubble up from the unconscious – from behind a locked door inside of our brain – but just because something is outside of awareness doesn’t mean it’s outside of control.”
  • “mediocre people find their way into positions of authority…because when it comes to even the most important positions, our selection decisions are a good deal less rational than we think.”
  • “People are in one of two states in a relationship,” Gottman went on. “The first is what I call positive sentiment override, where positive emotion overrides irritability. It’s like a buffer. Their spouse will do something bad, and they’ll say, ‘Oh, he’s just in a crummy mood.’ Or they can be in negative sentiment override, so that even a relatively neutral thing that a partner says gets perceived as negative.”
  • “understanding the true nature of instinctive decision making requires us to be forgiving of those people trapped in circumstances where good judgment is imperiled.”
  • “The real me isn’t the person I describe, no the real me is the me revealed by my actions.”
  • “Our world requires that decisions be sourced and footnoted, and if we say how we feel, we must also be prepared to elaborate on why we feel that way. I think that approach is a mistake, and if we are to learn to improve the quality of the decisions we make, we need to accept the mysterious nature of our snap judgements. We need to respect the fact that it is possible to know without knowing why we know and accept that — sometimes — we’re better off that way.”
  • “extreme visual clarity, tunnel vision, diminished sound, and the sense that time is slowing down. this is how the human body reacts to extreme stress.”
  • “The entire principle of a blind taste test was ridiculous. They shouldn’t have cared so much that they were losing blind taste tests with old Coke, and we shouldn’t at all be surprised that Pepsi’s dominance in blind taste tests never translated to much in the real world. Why not? Because in the real world, no one ever drinks Coca-Cola blind.”
  • “Our unconscious reactions come out of a locked room, and we can’t look inside that room. But with experience we become expert at using our behavior and our training to interpret – and decode – what lies behind our snap judgment and first impressions.”
  • “In life, most of us are highly skilled at suppressing action. All the improvisation teacher has to do is to reverse this skill and he creates very ‘gifted’ improvisers. Bad improvisers block action, often with a high degree of skill. Good improvisers develop action.”
  • “Whenever we have something that we are good at–something we care about–that experience and passion fundamentally change the nature of our first impressions.”
  • “I’ve been in auditions without screens, and I can assure you that I was prejudiced. I began to listen with my eyes, and there is no way that your eyes don’t affect your judgement. The only true way to listen is with your ears and your heart.”
  • “our power of thin-slicing and snap judgment are extraordinary, but even the giant computer in our unconscious need a moment to do its work.”
  • “Some people look like they sound better than they actually sound, because they look confident and have good posture”.Once musician, a veteran of many auditions, says. “Other people look awful when they play but sound great. Other people have that belabored look when they play, but you can’t hear it in the sound. There is always this dissonance between what you see and hear”.
  • “But in the end it comes down to a matter of respect, and the simplest way that respect is communicated is through tone of voice, and the most corsive tone of voice that a doctor can assume is a dominant tone. ”

The Four Agreements – Miguel Ruiz

  • “There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.”
  • “If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn’t walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You will find that you don’t need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.”
  • “Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.”
  • “If others tell us something, we make assumptions, and if they don’t tell us something, we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate. Even if we hear something and we don’t understand we make assumptions about what it means and then believe the assumptions. We make all sorts of assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions.”
  • “I will no longer allow anyone to manipulate my mind and control my life in the name of love.”
  • The best way to say, “Thank you, God,” is by letting go of the past and living in the present moment, right here and now. Whatever life takes away from you, let it go. When you surrender and let go of the past, you allow yourself to be fully alive in the moment. Letting go of the past means you can enjoy the dream that is happening right now.”
  • “Every human is an artist. The dream of your life is to make beautiful art.”
  • “If you live in a past dream, you don’t enjoy what is happening right now because you will always wish it to be different than it is. There is no time to miss anyone or anything because you are alive. Not enjoying what is happening right now is living in the past and being only half alive. This leads to self pity, suffering and tears.”
  • “But it is not what I am saying that is hurting you; it is that you have wounds that I touch by what I have said. You are hurting yourself. There is no way I can take this personally.”
  • “Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.”
  • “You can have many great ideas in your head, but what makes the difference is the action. Without action upon an idea, there will be no manifestation, no results, and no reward”
  • “Wherever you go you will find people lying to you, and as your awareness grows, you will notice that you also lie to yourself. Do not expect people to tell you the truth because they also lie to themselves. You have to trust yourself and choose to believe or not to believe what someone says to you.”
  • “Be impeccable with your word. Don’t take anything personally. Don’t make assumptions. Always do your best.”
  • “Also, go inside and listen to your body, because your body will never lie to you. Your mind will play tricks, but the way you feel in your heart, in your guts, is the truth.”
  • “It is when we lose control that we repress the emotions, not when we are in control.”
  • “True justice is paying only once for each mistake. True injustice is paying more than once for each mistake.”
  • “What you will see is love coming out of the trees, love coming out of the sky, love coming out of the light. You will perceive love from everything around you. This is the state of bliss.”
  • “The big difference between a warrior and a victim is that the victim represses and the warrior refrains.”
  • “Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use your power of your word in the direction of truth and love.”
  • “Whenever we hear an opinion and believe it, we make an agreement, and it becomes part of our belief system.”
  • “Humans hardly know what they want, how they want it, or when they want it.”
  • “Maybe we cannot escape from the destiny of the human, but we have a choice: to suffer our destiny or to enjoy our destiny.”
  • “You express your own divinity by being alive and by loving yourself and others.”
  • “In any kind of relationship, we can make the assumption that others know what we think, and we don’t have to say what we want. They are going to do what we want because they know us so well. If they don’t do what we want, what we assume they should do, we feel hurt and think, “How could you do that? You should know.” Again, we make the assumption that the other person knows what we want. A whole drama is created because we make this assumption and then put more assumptions on top of it.”
  • “We judge others according to our image of perfection as well, and naturally they fall short of our expectations.”
  • “We are so well trained that we are our own domesticator. We are an auto domesticated animal. We can now domesticate ourselves according to the same belief system we were given, and using the same system of punishment and reward. We punish ourselves when we don’t follow the rules according to our belief system; we reward ourselves when we are the “good boy” or “good girl” .”
  • “The Four Agreements :
    • 1. Be impeccable with your
    • 2. Don’t take anything personally.                               
    • 3. Don’t make assumptions.
    • 4. Always do your best. ”

The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle – Haruki Murakami

  • “When you don’t have anything to do, your thoughts get really really far out – so far out you can’t follow them all the way to the end.”
  • “I really suffer  emotional distress from contact with other people. A person may anger or annoyme, but not for long. I can distinguish between myself and another as beings of two different realms.”
  • “Kumiko’s father was an arrogant, unpleasant man, to be sure, but finally he was a small minded character who had lived by clinging to a simple set of narrow believe narrow beliefs.”
  • “Is it possible, in the final analysis, for one human being to achieve perfect understanding of another? We can invest enormous time and energy in serious efforts to know another person, but in the end, how close can we come to that person’s essence? We convince ourselves that we know the other person well, but do we really know anything important about anyone?”
  • “But even so, every now and then I would feel a violent stab of loneliness. The very water I drink, the very air I breathe, would feel like long, sharp needles. The pages of a book in my hands would take on the threatening metallic gleam of razor blades. I could hear the roots of loneliness creeping through me when the world was hushed at four o’clock in the morning.”
  • “Spend your money on the things money can buy. Spend your time on the things money can’t buy.”
  • “Memories and thoughts age, just as people do. But certain thoughts can never age, and certain memories can never fade.”
  • “Everybody’s born with some different thing at the core of their existence. And that thing, whatever it is, becomes like a heat source that runs each person from the inside. I have one too, of course. Like everybody else. But sometimes it gets out of hand. It swells or shrinks inside me, and it shakes me up. What I’d really like to do is find a way to communicate that feeling to another person. But I can’t seem to do it. They just don’t get it. Of course, the problem could be that I’m not explaining it very well, but I think it’s because they’re not listening very well. They pretend to be listening, but they’re not, really. So I get worked up sometimes, and I do some crazy things.”
  • “In a place far away from anyone or anywhere, I drifted off for a moment.”
  • “Have you ever had that feeling—that you’d like to go to a whole different place and become a whole different self?”
  • “Hatred is like a long, dark shadow. Not even the person it falls upon knows where it comes from, in most cases. It is like a two-edged sword. When you cut the other person, you cut yourself. The more violently you hack at the other person, the more violently you hack at yourself. It can often be fatal. But it is not easy to dispose of. Please be careful, Mr.Okada. It is very dangerous. Once it has taken root in your heart, hatred is the most difficult think in the world to shake off.”
  • “The point is, not to resist the flow. You go up when you’re supposed to go up and down when you’re supposed to go down. When you’re supposed to go up, find the highest tower and climb to the top. When you’re supposed to go down, find the deepest well and go down to the bottom. When there’s no flow, stay still. If you resist the flow, everything dries up. If everything dries up, the world is darkness.”
  • “I’d be smiling and chatting away, and my mind would be floating around somewhere else, like a balloon with a broken string.”
  • “When you are used to the kind of life -of never getting anything you want- you stop knowing what it is you want.”
  • “Kumiko and I felt something for each other from the beginning. It was not one of those strong, impulsive feelings that can hit two people like an electric shock when they first meet, but something quieter and gentler, like two tiny lights traveling in tandem through a vast darkness and drawing imperceptibly closer to each other as they go. As our meetings grew more frequent, I felt not so much that I had met someone new as that I had chanced upon a dear old friend.”
  • “What we see before us is just one tiny part of the world. We get in the habit of thinking, this is the world, but that’s not true at all. The real world is a much darker and deeper place than this, and much of it is occupied by jellyfish and things.”
  • “Results aside, the ability to have complete faith in another human being is one of the finest qualities a person can possess.”
  • “Everybody’s born with some different thing at the core of their existence. And that thing, whatever it is, becomes like a heat source that runs each person from the inside. I have one too, of course. Like everybody else. But sometimes it gets out of hand. It swells or shrinks inside me, and it shakes me up. What I’d really like to do is find a way to communicate that feeling to another person.”
  • “Tell me, Doctor, are you afraid of death?” – “I guess it depends on how you die.”
  • “You might think you made a new world or a new self, but your old self is always gonna be there, just below the surface, and if something happens, it’ll stick its head out and say ‘Hi.’ You don’t seem to realize that. You were made somewhere else.”
  • “I could disappear from the face of the earth, and the world would go on moving without the slightest twinge. Things were tremendously complicated, to be sure, but one thing was clear: no one needed me.”
  • “Nothing so consumes a person as meaningless exertion”
  • “This person, this self, this me, finally, was made somewhere else. Everything had come from somewhere else, and it would all go somewhere else. I was nothing but a pathway for the person known as me.”
  • “To tell you the truth, he said,  I can neither understand nor care about what you have been telling me. The things I care about are of an entirely different order, things that I suspect you can neither understand nor care about. To state my conclusions as concisely as possible, if you wish to marry kumiko and she wishes to marry you, I have neither the right nor any reason to stand in your way. Therefore I shall not stand in your way.”

Siddhartha – Hermann Hesse

  • “Words do not express thoughts very well, they always become a little different immediately they are expressed, a little distorted, a little foolish. And yet it also pleases me and seems right that what is of value and wisdom to one man seems nonsense to another.”
  • “Your soul is the whole world.”
  • “Wisdom cannot be imparted. Wisdom that a wise man attempts to impart always sounds like foolishness to someone else … Knowledge can be communicated, but not wisdom. One can find it, live it, do wonders through it, but one cannot communicate and teach it.”
  • “Have you also learned that secret from the river; that there is no such thing as time?” That the river is everywhere at the same time, at the source and at the mouth, at the waterfall, at the ferry, at the current, in the ocean and in the mountains, everywhere and that the present only exists for it, not the shadow of the past nor the shadow of the future.”
  • “When someone seeks,” said Siddhartha, “then it easily happens that his eyes see only the thing that he seeks, and he is able to find nothing, to take in nothing because he always thinks only about the thing he is seeking, because he has one goal, because he is obsessed with his goal. Seeking means: having a goal. But finding means: being free, being open, having no goal.”
  • “It is not for me to judge another man’s life. I must judge, I must choose, I must spurn, purely for myself. For myself, alone.”
  • “I have always believed, and I still believe, that whatever good or bad fortune may come our way we can always give it meaning and transform it into something of value.”
  • “What could I say to you that would be of value, except that perhaps you seek too much, that as a result of your seeking you cannot find.”
  • “We are not going in circles, we are going upwards. The path is a spiral; we have already climbed many steps.”
  • “I have had to experience so much stupidity, so many vices, so much error, so much nausea, disillusionment and sorrow, just in order to become a child again and begin anew. I had to experience despair, I had to sink to the greatest mental depths, to thoughts of suicide, in order to experience grace.”
  • “It may be important to great thinkers to examine the world, to explain and despise it. But I think it is only important to love the world, not to despise it, not for us to hate each other, but to be able to regard the world and ourselves and all beings with love, admiration and respect.”
  • “So she thoroughly taught him that one cannot take pleasure without giving pleasure, and that every gesture, every caress, every touch, every glance, every last bit of the body has its secret, which brings happiness to the person who knows how to wake it. She taught him that after a celebration of love the lovers should not part without admiring each other, without being conquered or having conquered, so that neither is bleak or glutted or has the bad feeling of being used or misused.”
  • “I will no longer mutilate and destroy myself in order to find a secret behind the ruins.”
  •  “My real self-wanders elsewhere, far away, wanders on and on invisibly and has nothing to do with my life.”
  •  “Gentleness is stronger than severity, water is stronger than rock, love is stronger than force.”
  • “When someone is seeking,” said Siddartha, “It happens quite easily that he only sees the thing that he is seeking; that he is unable to find anything, unable to absorb anything, because he is only thinking of the thing he is seeking, because he has a goal, because he is obsessed with his goal. Seeking means: to have a goal; but finding means: to be free, to be receptive, to have no goal. You, O worthy one, are perhaps indeed a seeker, for in striving towards your goal, you do not see many things that are under your nose.”
  • “I have always thirsted for knowledge; I have always been full of questions.”
  • “And all the voices, all the goals, all the yearnings, all the sorrows, all the pleasures, all the good and evil, all of them together was the world. All of them together was the stream of events, the music of life.”
  • “He has robbed me, yet he has given me something of greater value . . . he has given to me myself.”
  • “Opinions mean nothing; they may be beautiful or ugly, clever or foolish, anyone can embrace or reject them.”
  •  “They both listened silently to the water, which to them was not just water, but the voice of life, the voice of Being, the voice of perpetual Becoming.”
  • “The river is everywhere.”
  • “One must find the source within one’s own Self, one must possess it. Everything else was seeking — a detour, an error.”
  • “Not in his speech, not in his thoughts, I see his greatness, only in his actions, in his life.”
  • “Dreams and restless thoughts came flowing to him from the river, from the twinkling stars at night, from the sun’s melting rays. Dreams and a restlessness of the soul came to him.”
  •  “And here is a doctrine at which you will laugh. It seems to me, Govinda, that love is the most important thing in the world.”
  • “One can beg, buy, be presented with and find love in the streets, but it can never be stolen.”

Norwegian Wood – Haruki Murakami

  • “If you only read the books that everyone else is reading, you can only think what everyone else is thinking.”
  • “What happens when people open their hearts?”
  • “They get better.”
  • “Nobody likes being alone that much. I don’t go out of my way to make friends, that’s all. It just leads to disappointment. ”
  • “But who can say what’s best? That’s why you need to grab whatever chance you have of happiness where you find it, and not worry about other people too much. My experience tells me that we get no more than two or three such chances in a life time, and if we let them go, we regret it for the rest of our lives.”
  • “I want you always to remember me. Will you remember that I existed, and that I stood next to you here like this?”
  • “I was always hungry for love. Just once, I wanted to know what it was like to get my fill of it — to be fed so much love I couldn’t take any more. Just once. ”
  • “Despite your best efforts, people are going to be hurt when it’s time for them to be hurt.”
  • “Letters are just pieces of paper,” I said. “Burn them, and what stays in your heart will stay; keep them, and what vanishes will vanish.”
  • “I have a million things to talk to you about. All I want in this world is you. I want to see you and talk. I want the two of us to begin everything from the beginning.”
  • “No truth can cure the sorrow we feel from losing a loved one. No truth, no sincerity, no strength, no kindness can cure that sorrow. All we can do is see it through to the end and learn something from it, but what we learn will be no help in facing the next sorrow that comes to us without warning.”
  • “What a terrible thing it is to wound someone you really care for and to do it so unconsciously.”
  • “Only the Dead stay seventeen forever.”
  • “If you’re in pitch blackness, all you can do is sit tight until your eyes get used to the dark”
  • “What makes us the most normal,” said Reiko, “is knowing that we’re not normal.”
  • “People leave strange little memories of themselves behind when they die.”
  • “So what’s wrong if there happens to be one guy in the world who enjoys trying to understand you?”
  • “Not that we were incompatible: we just had nothing to talk about.”
  • “Memory is a funny thing. When I was in the scene, I hardly paid it any mind. I never stopped to think of it as something that would make a lasting impression, certainly never imagined that eighteen years later I would recall it in such detail. I didn’t give a damn about the scenery that day. I was thinking about myself. I was thinking about the beautiful girl walking next to me. I was thinking about the two of us together, and then about myself again. It was the age, that time of life when every sight, every feeling, every thought came back, like a boomerang, to me. And worse, I was in love. Love with complications. The scenery was the last thing on my mind.”
  • “She’s letting out her feelings. The scary thing is not being able to do that. When your feelings build up and harden and die inside, then you’re in big trouble.”
  • “Something inside me had dropped away, and nothing came in to fill the cavern.”
  • “I made up my mind I was going to find someone who would love me unconditionally three hundred and sixty five days a year, I was still in elementary school at the time – fifth or sixth grade – but I made up my mind once and for all.”
  • She watched the rising smoke for a while, thinking. “I guess I’ve been waiting so long I’m looking for perfection. That makes it tough.”
  • “Which is why I am writing this book. To think. To understand. It just happens to be the way I’m made. I have to write things down to feel I fully comprehend them.”
  • “Things like that happen all the time in this great big world of ours. It’s like taking a boat out on a beautiful lake on a beautiful day and thinking both the sky and the lake are beautiful. So stop eating yourself up alive. Things will go where they’re supposed to go if you just let them take their natural course.”

Three Daughters of Eve – Elif Shafak



  • “Time, like a skillful tailor, had seamlessly stitched together the two fabrics that sheathed Peri’s life: what people thought of her and what she thought of herself.”
  • “God, a simple word with an obscure meaning. God, close enough to know everything you did- or even considered doing – yet impossible to reach.”
  • “God was a maze without a map, a circle without a centre, the pieces of jigsaw puzzle that never seemed to fit together. If only she could solve this mystery, she could bring meaning to senselessness, reason to madness, order to chaos, and perhaps, too, she could learn to be happy.”
  • “He was advised to give up drinking and to stay away from stress- as if stress were an obnoxious relative one could simply stop inviting to dinner.”
  • “Whether men or women, it was always people with rough journeys in their pasts, uncertainty in their eyes and invisible wounds in their souls that intrigued her.”
  • “Maybe,but I don’t want an extra skin. I touch the flame, I burn; I hold ice, I’m cold. The world is what it is. We’ll all die. What’s the point of safety in crowds? We are born alone, we die alone.”
  • “I said to myself, sin in the eyes of Allah is worse than shame in the eyes of neighbors, so I carried on.”
  • “In many parts of the world you were what you said and what you did and, also, what you read; in Turkey, as in all countries haunted by questions of Identity, you were, primarily, what you rejected.”
  • “Like it or not, this is the century of tigers. Sure, they won’t love you if you’re a tiger. But they’ll fear you, and that’s what matters.”
  • “There are two ways of dealing with melancholy. You either sit in the driver’s seat and step on the gas while Mr Depression screams his head off at the back. Or you let him do the driving, and he frightens you instead.”
  • “There was a box inside the part of the brain that stored memory – a music box, it’s enamel paint chipped, it’s notes that of a haunting melody. Stashed away in it were all the things that the mind neither wanted to forget nor dared to remember. At moments of stress or trauma, or perhaps for no apparent reason, the box snapped open and all its contents scattered about. This was what she felt was happening to her tonight.”
  • “Truth is so rare a thing; it is delightful to tell it.”
  • “That guy doesn’t teach God. He believes he is God.”
  • “Speculation without knowledge is self- indulgent twaddle.”
  • “There is something about love that resembles faith. It’s kind of blind trust isn’t it? The sweetest Euphoria. The magic of connecting with a being beyond our limited, familiar selves. But if we get carried away by love – or by faith it turns into a dogma, a fixation. The sweetness becomes sour. We suffer in the hands of the gods that we ourselves created.”



The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment – Eckhart Tolle

  • “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.” 
  • “Time isn’t precious at all, because it is an illusion. What you perceive as precious is not time but the one point that is out of time: the Now. That is precious indeed. The more you are focused on time—past and future—the more you miss the Now, the most precious thing there is.” 
  • “Love is not selective, just as the light of the sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the “love” of ego. However, the intensity with which true love is felt can vary. There may be one person who reflects your love back to you more clearly and more intensely than others, and if that person feels the same toward you, it can be said that you are in a love relationship with him or her. The bond that connects you with that person is the same bond that connects you with the person sitting next to you on a bus, or with a bird, a tree, a flower. Only the degree of intensity with which it is felt differs.”
  • “Any action is often better than no action, especially if you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for a long time. If it is a mistake, at least you learn something, in which case it’s no longer a mistake. If you remain stuck, you learn nothing.” 
  • “All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry – all forms of fear – are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.” 
  • “Get the inside right, the outside will fall into place. Primary reality is within; secondary reality without.” 
  • “It is not uncommon for people to spend their whole life waiting to start living.” 
  • “…the past gives you an identity and the future holds the promise of salvation, of fulfillment in whaterver form. Both are illusions.” 
  • “See if you can catch yourself complaining, in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.” 
  • “As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love – even the most simple action.” 
  • “If your mind carries a heavy burden of past, you will experience more of the same. The past perpetuates itself through lack of presence. The quality of your consciousness at this moment is what shapes the future.”
  • “What a caterpillar calls the end of the world we call a butterfly.” 
  • “Nothing has happened in the past; it happened in the Now. Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now.” 
  • “Don’t look for peace. Don’t look for any other state than the one you are in now; otherwise, you will set up inner conflict and unconscious resistance. Forgive yourself for not being at peace. The moment you completely accept your non-peace, your non-peace becomes transmuted into peace. Anything you accept fully will get you there, will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender” 
  • “Watch any plant or animal and let it teach you acceptance of what is, surrender to the Now.
    Let it teach you Being.
    Let it teach you integrity — which means to be one, to be yourself, to be real.
    Let it teach you how to live and how to die, and how not to make living and dying into a problem.” 
  • “Your outer journey may contain a million steps; your inner journey only has one: the step you are taking right now.” 
  • “Once you have identified with some form of negativity, you do not want to let it go, and on a deeply unconscious level, you do not want positive change. It would threaten your identity as a depressed, angry or hard-done by person. You will then ignore, deny or sabotage the positive in your life. This is a common phenomenon. 
    It is also insane.” 
  • “Reading is my passion and my escape since I was 5 years old. Overall, children don’t realize the magic that can live inside their own heads. Better even then any movie.” 
  • “Die to the past every moment. You don’t need it. Only refer to it when it is absolutely relevant to the present. Feel the power of this moment and the fullness of Being. Feel your presence.” 
  • “Where there is anger there is always pain underneath.” 
  • “Being an outsider to some extent, someone who does not “fit in” with others or is rejected by them for whatever reason, makes life difficult, but it also places you at an advantage as far as enlightenment is concerned. It takes you out of unconsciousness almost by force.” 
  • “Accept — then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life.” 
  • “Focus attention on the feeling inside you. Know that it is the pain-body. Accept that it is there. Don’t think about it – don’t let the feeling turn into thinking. Don’t judge or analyze. Don’t make an identity for yourself out of it. Stay present, and continue to be the observer of what is happening inside you. Become aware not only of the emotional pain but also of “the one who observes,” the silent watcher. This is the power of the Now, the power of your own conscious presence. Then see what happens.” 
  • “The best indicator of your level of consciousness is how you deal with life’s challenges when they come. Through those challenges, an already unconscious person tends to become more deeply unconscious, and a conscious person more intensely conscious. You can use a challenge to awaken you, or you can allow it to pull you into even deeper sleep. The dream
    of ordinary unconsciousness then turns into a nightmare.” 
  • “The pain that you create now is always some form of nonacceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is. On the level of thought, the resistance is some form of judgment. On the emotional level, it is some form of negativity. The intensity of the pain depends on the degree of resistance to the present moment, and this in turn depends on how strongly you are identified with your mind. The mind always seeks to deny the Now and to escape from it. In other words, the more you are identified with your mind, the more you suffer. Or you may put it like this: the more you are able to honor and accept the Now, the more you are free of pain, of suffering – and free of the egoic mind. Why does the mind habitually deny or resist the Now? Because it cannot function and remain in control without time, which is past and future, so it perceives the timeless Now as threatening. Time and mind are in fact inseparable.” 
  • “Space and silence are two aspects of the same thing. The same no-thing. They are externalization of inner space and inner silence, which is stillness: the infinitely creative womb of all existence.” 
  • “At the deepest level of Being, you are one with all that is” 
  • “Thinking is only a small aspect of consciousness. Thought cannot exist without consciousness, but consciousness does not need thought” 
  • “Form is emptiness, emptiness is form” states the Heart Sutra, one of the best known ancient Buddhist texts. The essence of all things is emptiness.” 

The Power of Positive Thinking – Norman Vincent Peale

  • “The way to happiness: Keep your heart free from hate, your mind from worry. Live simply, expect little, give much. Scatter sunshine, forget self, think of others. Try this for a week and you will be surprised.” 
  • “The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism” 
  • “Formulate and stamp indelibly on your mind a mental picture of yourself as succeeding. Hold this picture tenaciously. Never permit it to fade. Your mind will seek to develop the picture… Do not build up obstacles in your imagination.” 
  • “Stand up to an obstacle. Just stand up to it, that’s all, and don’t give way under it, and it will finally break. You will break it. Something has to break, and it won’t be you, it will be the obstacle.” 
  • “Let nothing trouble you let nothing worry you everything passes away expect God, God alone is sufficient” 
  • “Basil King once said, “Be bold, and mighty forces will come to your aid.”
  • “A man who is self-reliant, positive, optimistic, and undertakes his work with the assurance of success magnetizes his condition. He draws to himself the creative powers of the universe.” 
  • “Our happiness depends on the habit of mind we cultivate.” 

  • “YOU DO NOT need to be a victim of worry. Reduced to its simplest form, what is worry? It is simply an unhealthy and destructive mental habit.” 
  • “When you expect the best, you release a magnetic force in your mind which by a law of attraction tends to bring the best to you.” 
  • “To become a happy person have a clean soul, eyes that see romance in the commonplace, a child’s heart, and spiritual simplicity.” 
  • “It is significant that the word “holiness” derives from a word meaning “wholeness” and the word “meditation,” usually used in a religious sense, closely resembles the root meaning of the word “medication.” The affinity of the two words is startlingly evident when we realize that sincere and practical meditation upon God and His truth acts as a medication for the soul and body.” 
  • “Personally, I believe that prayer is a sending out of vibrations from one person to another and to God. All of the universe is in vibration. There are vibrations in the molecules of a table. The air is filled with vibrations. The reaction between human beings is also in vibration.
  • When you send out a prayer for another person, you employ the force inherent in a spiritual universe. You transport from yourself to the other person a sense of love, helpfulness, support—a sympathetic, powerful understanding—and in this process you awaken vibrations in the universe through which” 
  • “We are beginning to comprehend a basic truth hitherto neglected, that our physical condition is determined very largely by our emotional condition, and our emotional life is profoundly regulated by our thought life.” 
  • “BELIEVE IN YOURSELF! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. But with sound self-confidence you can succeed. A sense of inferiority and inadequacy interferes with the attainment of your hopes, but self-confidence leads to self-realization and successful achievement.” 
  • “when the old fears, hates, and worries that have haunted you for so long try to edge back in, they will in effect find a sign on the door of your mind reading “occupied.” 
  • “One of the most powerful concepts, one which is a sure cure for lack of confidence, is the thought that God is actually with you and helping you. This is one of the simplest teachings in religion, namely, that Almighty God will be your companion, will stand by you, help you, and see you through. No other idea is so powerful in developing self-confidence as this simple belief when practiced. To practice it simply affirm “God is with me; God is helping me; God is guiding me.” 
  • “The greatest secret for eliminating the inferiority complex, which is another term for deep and profound self-doubt, is to fill your mind to overflowing with faith. Develop a tremendous faith in God and that will give you a humble yet soundly realistic faith in yourself.” 
  • “sudden I stopped. I was out of breath. I asked myself, “What is this all about? What is the meaning of this ceaseless rush? This is ridiculous!” Then I declared independence, and said, “I do not care if I go to dinner. I do not care whether I make a talk. I do not have to go to this dinner and I do not have to make a speech.” So deliberately and slowly I walked back to my room and took my time about unlocking the door. I telephoned the man downstairs and said, “If you want to eat, go ahead. If you want to save a place for me, I will be down after a while, but I am not going to rush any more.”
  • “If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed … nothing shall be impossible unto you.” 
  • “We build up the feeling of insecurity or security by how we think. If in our thoughts we constantly fix attention upon sinister expectations of dire events that might happen, the result will be constantly to feel insecure. And what is even more serious is the tendency to create, by the power of thought, the very condition we fear.” 
  • “Hard work, positive thinking, fair dealing, right treatment of people, and the proper kind of praying always get results. This” 
  • “Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” 
  • “Self-knowledge is the beginning of self-correction.” 

Emotional Intelligence 2.0 – Travis Bradberry

By Travis Bradberry ,  Jean Greaves, Patrick Lencioni

  • “Emotional intelligence is your ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others, and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships.” 

  • “Anyone can become angry—that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way, this is not easy.” 
  • “The tricky thing about your brain is that, once a negative mood takes over, you lose sight of what’s good in your life, and suddenly you hate your job, you’re frustrated with family and friends, you’re dissatisfied with your accomplishments, and your optimism about the future goes out the window. Deep down, you know that things aren’t as bad as they seem, but your brain just won’t hear it.” 
  • “The biggest obstacle to increasing your self-awareness is the tendency to avoid the discomfort that comes from seeing yourself as you really are.” 
  • “Remember, feedback is meant to address the problem, not the person.” 
  • “You do control the thoughts that follow an emotion, and you have a great deal of say in how you react to an emotion—as long as you are aware of it.” 
  • “All emotions are derivations of five core feelings: happiness, sadness, anger, fear, and shame.” 
  • “Intelligence is your ability to learn, and it’s the same at age 15 as it is at age 50.” 
  • “Trust is a peculiar resource; it is built rather than depleted by use.” 
  • “Good decisions require far more than factual knowledge. They are made using self-knowledge and emotional mastery when they’re needed most.” 
  • “Your brain has a difficult time distinguishing between what you see with your eyes and what you visualize in your mind.” 
  • “The link between EQ and earnings is so direct that every point increase in EQ adds $1,300 to an annual salary.” 
  • “EQ is so critical to success that it accounts for 58 percent of performance in all types of jobs. It’s the single biggest predictor of performance in the workplace and the strongest driver of leadership and personal excellence.” 
  • “Self-awareness is the process of getting to know yourself from the inside out and the outside in.” 
  • “Self-management is more than resisting explosive or problematic behavior. The biggest challenge that people face is managing their tendencies over time and applying their skills in a variety of situations.” 
  • “People with the highest levels of intelligence (IQ) outperform those with average IQs just 20% of the time, while people with average IQs outperform those with high IQs 70% of the time.” 
  • “Emotions serve an important purpose—they clue you into things that you’ll never understand if you don’t take the time to ask yourself why.” 
  • “Greeting someone by name is one of the most basic and influential social awareness strategies you can adopt. It’s a personal and meaningful way to engage someone. If you have a tendency to withdraw in social situations, greeting someone by name is a simple way to stick your neck out; using someone’s name breaks down barriers and comes across as warm and inviting. Even if you are a social butterfly, greeting people by name is a strategy to live by.” 
  • “Stay aware of your good moods and the foolish decisions these moods can lead to, and you’ll be able to enjoy feeling good without any regrets.” 
  • “The secret to winning this culture game is to treat others how they want to be treated, not how you would want to be treated.” 
  • “Physical appearance is more straightforward—what you wear sends a pretty clear, established message about how you feel. For example, wearing old sweatpants and ratty T-shirts and having disheveled hair every day tells the world you’ve given up, while overdressing for every occasion and never missing your weekly haircut lets people know you are trying too hard.” 
  • “Your personality is a result of your preferences, such as your inclination to introversion or extroversion. However, like IQ, personality can’t be used to predict emotional intelligence.” 
  • “Hard times of any kind—financial, familial, or job-related—create more intense and often prolonged negative emotions that ultimately result in stress. In addition to the physical costs of stress, such as weight gain and heart disease, stress also taxes our mental resources.” 
  • “Social awareness is your ability to accurately pick up on emotions in other people and understand what is really going on with them.” 
  • “When you’re stuck in a down mood, it’s not a good time to make important decisions. You’ll have to remain aware of the mood and understand it if you hope to keep it from leading you to make mistakes that will only pull you down further. Not only is it OK to reflect upon recent events that may have brought on the mood, but this is also a good idea—as long as you don’t dwell on them for too long—because often that’s all it takes to get the mood to pass.” 

  • “This sounds basic, almost too basic to mention, but listening is a strategy and a skill that is losing ground in society. Most people think they are good listeners, but if adults played “the Telephone Game” today, how accurate would the final message be? Listening requires focus, and focus isn’t easy because we’re stretched in several directions. Listening” 

  • “People high in self-awareness are remarkably clear in their understanding of what they do well, what motivates and satisfies them, and which people and situations push their buttons.” 
  • “Remember, planning the future and reflecting on the past are valuable exercises, but doing this throughout your day interferes with what is in front of you—your present.” 
  • As the first component of social competence, social awareness is a foundational skill. Social awareness is your ability to accurately pick up on emotions in other people and understand what is really going on with them. This often means perceiving what other people are thinking and feeling even if you do not feel the same way.” 
  • “When you don’t stop to think about your feelings—including how they are influencing your behavior now and will continue to do so in the future—you set yourself up to be a frequent victim of emotional hijackings. Whether you’re aware of it or not, your emotions will control you, and you’ll move through your day reacting to your feelings with little choice in what you say and do.” 
  • “Relationship management is your ability to use your awareness of your own emotions and those of others to manage interactions successfully.” 
  • “The more we understand the beauty and the blemishes, the better we are able to achieve our full potential.” 

The Way of Kings – Brandon Sanderson

(The Stormlight Archive #1)

  • “The purpose of a storyteller is not to tell you how to think, but to give you questions to think upon.” 
  • “Strength does not make one capable of rule; it makes one capable of service.” 
  • “Those candle flames were like the lives of men. So fragile. So deadly. Left alone, they lit and warmed. Let run rampant, they would destroy the very things they were meant to illuminate. Embryonic bonfires, each bearing a seed of destruction so potent it could tumble cities and dash kings to their knees.” 
  • “Life before Death.
    Strength before Weakness.
    Journey before Destination.” 
  • “And so, does the destination matter? Or is it the path we take? I declare that no accomplishment has substance nearly as great as the road used to achieve it. We are not creatures of destinations. It is the journey that shapes us. Our callused feet, our backs strong from carrying the weight of our travels, our eyes open with the fresh delight of experiences lived.”
  • “Expectations were like fine pottery. The harder you held them, the more likely they were to crack.”
  • “To lack feeling is to be dead, but to act on every feeling is to be a child.”
  • “Just because I do not accept the teachings of the devotaries does not mean I’ve discarded a belief in right and wrong.”
    “But the Almighty determines what is right!”
    “Must someone, some unseen thing, declare what is right for it to be right? I believe that my own morality — which answers only to my heart — is more sure and true than the morality of those who do right only because they fear retribution.” 
  • “Somebody has to start. Somebody has to step forward and do what is right, because it is right.” 
  • “In the end, all men die. How you lived will be far more important to the Almighty than what you accomplished.”
  • “Ah, the outdoors,’ Shallan said. ‘I visited that mythical place once.”
  • “Too many of us take great pains with what we ingest through our mouths, and far less with what we partake of through our ears and eyes.”
  • “Authority doesn’t come from a rank.,” Kaladin said, fingering the spheres in his pocket.
    “Where does it come from?”
    “From the men who give it to you. That’s the only way to get it.”
  • “This world, it is a tempest sometimes. But remember, the sun always rises again.”
  • “The hallmark of insecurity is bravado.”
  • “There are two kinds of people in this world, son. Those who save lives, and those who take lives.”
    “And what of those who protect and defend? Those who save lives by taking lives?”
    “That’s like trying to stop a storm by blowing harder. Ridiculous. You can’t protect by killing.”
  • “Overcome your guilt. Care, but not too much. Take responsibility, but don’t blame yourself. Protect, save, help- but know when to give up. They’re precarious ledges to walk. How do I do it?”
  • “An excuse is what you make after the deed is done, while a justification is what you offer before.” 
  • “I want you to go back into the barrack and tell the men to come out after the storm. Tell them to look up at me tied here. Tell them I’ll open my eyes and look back at them, and they’ll know that I survived.”
  • “In the end, I must proclaim that no good can be achieved of false means. For the substance of our existence is not in the achievement, but in the method.”